The Life Of Japanese Women After Marriage

THE LIFE OF JAPANESE WOMEN AFTER MARRIAGE

 Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Life Of Japanese Women After Marriage”. Do you know? How the life of Japanese women after marriage? So keep reading on my blog and I’ll tell you about it.

          Marriage is where an event or ceremony takes place to bind two people namely a man and a woman. A man and a woman who are having marriages are called brides, and after the ceremony is finished then they are called husband and wife in marital ties. Same like other countries, each family can choose how their life after marriage such as husband and wife work or husband works and wife only as housewife or vice versa but all those go back to each individual how they want. So, in Japan there is a uniqueness that some women in Japan prefer to be housewives than becoming career women.

             Here are the lives of japanese women after marriage:

1.    The position of men and women after marriage

In Japan, the position of men in Japan is very comparable when after marriage and before marriage. Because during courtship, Japanese women sacrificed a lot. There is a tradition, for example lovers do traveling or just eat dinner then pay for each one. There is no obligation for the man to treat. Of course this is rather rare in Indonesia. But when they got married, many women take control of the family because there are regulations where all the husband's salary is for his wife. In Japan there is also a culture that the wife is the pillar of the family. The wife is trusted to regulate the family economy. In general, husbands are allocated pocket money by their wives.

2.    A wife prefers to be a housewife

Some Japanese women prefer to be housewives rather than becoming career women after marriage. The common mindset of Japanese women and still do is that the role of husbands who work and earn a living, while their wives are at home to care for their husbands and children. It is true but many countries have given freedom to their citizens, especially women, to be able to work after marriage and the Japanese government has imposed laws for gender equality on employment opportunities since 1986. As for some countries and even Indonesia, it is considered normal if a woman (wife) will continue to work after marriage.

3.    Rarely leave children with other people

Married couples that have child, in Japan rarely leave their children in other people's places such as in relatives or neighbors if the couple wants to leave the house. But in the west, married couples may leave their children with relatives or neighbors if they want to go to restaurant or other like courtship.

4.    Expression of love

A boyfriend, husband, wife in Japan rarely say 'I Love You' to their partners. This does sound a little cold and weird. However, Japanese people prefer to express what they think and feel. So, they express love with action. If the family of japanese people have got children, they can adjust to call her husband or his wife according to the call of his children to his mother or to his father like okaa-san (mother) and otou-san (father).

         Those are some the lives of japanese women after marriage. So, if you want to married with japanese woman, you have to know these so you can adapt with their culture or you can teach them how is the culture of your country.

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The Manners To Visit Or Stay In A Japanese Family House

THE MANNERS TO VISIT OR STAY IN A JAPANESE FAMILY HOUSE

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Some times ago, I have told you about “The Procedure of Entering A house In Japan”. Japanese people are clean and polite people . They have good habit. One of them is the procedure of entering a house. So, You have to know that thing if You want to go to Japan or visit Japanese people’s house. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Manners To Visit Or Stay In A Japanese Family House”, it is related to the last topic.

            Japan has been known for its discipline, hard work, clean and has good manners. Everyone would want to go to Japan and want to know the unique things there. Quite a lot of visitors come to Japan such as to go on tours, meet relatives or business affairs, school affairs and others. So, when you want to vacation or meet with business partners or do other things in Japan, you can stay at the inn, because in Japan there are so many inns available that are in suitable with the desired and suit to the costs incurred. So you can book by online or other. But if you want other options when you visit Japan, you can also stay at a Japanese family house. Don’t worry if you want to stay at a Japanese family house because Japanese houses will always be open to tourists who come to Japan such as business or school affairs. But because you stay at someone else's house, you have to follow their procedures and there are things to know if you want to stay overnight or just visit Japanese houses.

So the following is what should be done if you want to visit or stay at a Japanese family house:

1.    Make Appointment

Before you come to your relative’s or friend’s house, you have to make appointment before come to their house. Because as we know Japanese people are very timely, even if you want to come to their house, you have to tell them exactly what time you will come to their house.

2.    Greeting And Giving Souvenirs

Before you enter the homeowner’s house, you have to greet them, it will make the homeowner is respected by you. Japanese people have a habit that often gives small gifts as thanks. So you can give souvenirs to them for thanks because you have been allowed to stay at their house. So you make them happy and they feel valued by what you give.

3.    Footwear

At the last topic, I have told you about “take off footwear”. One of the manners to visit or stay at a japanese family house is taken off footwear. As like Indonesians, Japanese people also take off their shoes or sandals before entering the house. In Japanese house, there is “Genka”. Genka is terrace or small room in front of the entrance of the house. On the terrace or in this small room, they can take off their footwear before entering the house and make sure the shoes or sandals that they use are stacked facing out. But if there is sandals rack, they can put the sandals or shoes on the rack. This is done so that it is easier for them to want to come out later. If they use socks, make sure don't open them because it's more polite than without socks. So you have to know these things because japanese people really like cleanliness.

4.    Try To speak Japanese

They will also accept you if you speak English but you have to try to speak Japanese because it makes them happy with you and they will respect you even though you can't speak Japanese very well.

5.    Tell Them What You Can Eat

Homeowners will feel disappointing to their guests if they give food that is not in accordance with what their guests like or want. So make sure to let the homeowner what meals that you can eat.

6.    Respect For Eating Rules

You have to respect their eating rules, like how to sit when eating, using chopsticks, and ways to hold chopsticks and then say something before eating. Japanese people have quite a lot of procedures for using chopsticks, so if you don't know, you have to try it, if you do it wrong, it won't be scold but they just laugh at you because they feel funny.

            So, those are some of the manners to visit or stay in a japanese family house. Before you come to Japan or go to Japan, you have to know these things, so you can adjust to Japanese families and know how good behavior must be done there.

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The Procedures of Entering The House In Japan

THE PROCEDURES OF ENTERING THE HOUSE IN JAPAN

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Some times ago, I have told you about “The Procedures of Greeting In Japan”, so the parents of japanese people have taught their children from the age of a toddler to respect others that they know like greet them and the family factors are important in teaching their children with polite and kind things to children from childhood. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Procedure of Entering The house In Japan”, it is related to the last topic.

Japanese people are clean and polite people . They have good habit. One of them is the procedure of entering a house. Same like others countries, they will greet before entering the house. And after thet they will do something that in others countries don’t do this. Do you know what is that? I’ll tell you how do they do to enter a house.

Here are some the procedures of entering a house in Japan:

1.    Greeting

The last topic, I have told you about greeting. One of greeting that they do is when we enter a house. Greeting is a way for someone to intentionally communicate awareness of the presence of others who are related to each other. The children in Japan have been taught by their parents to always say hello to people that they know and greet when they enter the house. So when before we enter a house in Japan, we must greet like bend and say something at the same time in front of the house. There are some expressions that we use before entering a house in Japan.  

a.    Tadaima (ただいま), it means “I Go Home” (the word that is said when returning to residence).

b.    Gomen kudasai (ご免ください), it means “Excuse Me” (used  when visiting other people's homes).

If you are a fan of Japanese cartoons (Anime), you will often hear some of the above expressions used in the story before entering a house by some characters like one of them is Nobita characters in the Doraemon cartoon. Although you hear in Bahasa language or other language but you know about how they enter the house. So we can use these expressions before entering a house.

2.    Take off Footwear

One of the procedures of entering a house in Japan is “take off footwear”. As like Indonesians, Japanese people also take off their shoes or sandals before entering the house. In Japanese house, there is “Genka”. Genka is terrace or small room in front of the entrance of the house. On the terrace or in this small room, they can take off their footwear before entering the house and make sure the shoes or sandals that they use are stacked facing out. But if there is sandals rack, they can put the sandals or shoes on the rack. This is done so that it is easier for them to want to come out later. If they use socks, make sure don't open them because it's more polite than without socks. So you have to know these things because for some tourists who come to Japan they often experience culture shock because they are not used to doing these things in their country.

3.    Wearing socks and sandals

Before entering the house of Japanese people must take off their shoes or sandals, after doing this they must wear special socks and sandals used in the house. So using socks and using different sandals when from outside and entering the house, this is done so that the house is clean because all activities are done on tatami and using socks in Japanese people's homes to look more polite than not using socks. Tatami is like a traditional Japanese made mat and usually made from woven straw. But they will change sandals if they enter a bathroom, and usually they will take off their sandals when they enter the bedroom.

            So those are some procedures of entering the house in Japan. Those are some of the things that Japanese families life do when entering a house. You have to know these things if You go to Japan or visit Japanese people’s house because for some tourists who come to Japan they often experience culture shock because they are not used to doing these things in their country.

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