The Life Of Japanese Women After Marriage

THE LIFE OF JAPANESE WOMEN AFTER MARRIAGE

 Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Life Of Japanese Women After Marriage”. Do you know? How the life of Japanese women after marriage? So keep reading on my blog and I’ll tell you about it.

          Marriage is where an event or ceremony takes place to bind two people namely a man and a woman. A man and a woman who are having marriages are called brides, and after the ceremony is finished then they are called husband and wife in marital ties. Same like other countries, each family can choose how their life after marriage such as husband and wife work or husband works and wife only as housewife or vice versa but all those go back to each individual how they want. So, in Japan there is a uniqueness that some women in Japan prefer to be housewives than becoming career women.

             Here are the lives of japanese women after marriage:

1.    The position of men and women after marriage

In Japan, the position of men in Japan is very comparable when after marriage and before marriage. Because during courtship, Japanese women sacrificed a lot. There is a tradition, for example lovers do traveling or just eat dinner then pay for each one. There is no obligation for the man to treat. Of course this is rather rare in Indonesia. But when they got married, many women take control of the family because there are regulations where all the husband's salary is for his wife. In Japan there is also a culture that the wife is the pillar of the family. The wife is trusted to regulate the family economy. In general, husbands are allocated pocket money by their wives.

2.    A wife prefers to be a housewife

Some Japanese women prefer to be housewives rather than becoming career women after marriage. The common mindset of Japanese women and still do is that the role of husbands who work and earn a living, while their wives are at home to care for their husbands and children. It is true but many countries have given freedom to their citizens, especially women, to be able to work after marriage and the Japanese government has imposed laws for gender equality on employment opportunities since 1986. As for some countries and even Indonesia, it is considered normal if a woman (wife) will continue to work after marriage.

3.    Rarely leave children with other people

Married couples that have child, in Japan rarely leave their children in other people's places such as in relatives or neighbors if the couple wants to leave the house. But in the west, married couples may leave their children with relatives or neighbors if they want to go to restaurant or other like courtship.

4.    Expression of love

A boyfriend, husband, wife in Japan rarely say 'I Love You' to their partners. This does sound a little cold and weird. However, Japanese people prefer to express what they think and feel. So, they express love with action. If the family of japanese people have got children, they can adjust to call her husband or his wife according to the call of his children to his mother or to his father like okaa-san (mother) and otou-san (father).

         Those are some the lives of japanese women after marriage. So, if you want to married with japanese woman, you have to know these so you can adapt with their culture or you can teach them how is the culture of your country.

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The Manners To Visit Or Stay In A Japanese Family House

THE MANNERS TO VISIT OR STAY IN A JAPANESE FAMILY HOUSE

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Some times ago, I have told you about “The Procedure of Entering A house In Japan”. Japanese people are clean and polite people . They have good habit. One of them is the procedure of entering a house. So, You have to know that thing if You want to go to Japan or visit Japanese people’s house. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Manners To Visit Or Stay In A Japanese Family House”, it is related to the last topic.

            Japan has been known for its discipline, hard work, clean and has good manners. Everyone would want to go to Japan and want to know the unique things there. Quite a lot of visitors come to Japan such as to go on tours, meet relatives or business affairs, school affairs and others. So, when you want to vacation or meet with business partners or do other things in Japan, you can stay at the inn, because in Japan there are so many inns available that are in suitable with the desired and suit to the costs incurred. So you can book by online or other. But if you want other options when you visit Japan, you can also stay at a Japanese family house. Don’t worry if you want to stay at a Japanese family house because Japanese houses will always be open to tourists who come to Japan such as business or school affairs. But because you stay at someone else's house, you have to follow their procedures and there are things to know if you want to stay overnight or just visit Japanese houses.

So the following is what should be done if you want to visit or stay at a Japanese family house:

1.    Make Appointment

Before you come to your relative’s or friend’s house, you have to make appointment before come to their house. Because as we know Japanese people are very timely, even if you want to come to their house, you have to tell them exactly what time you will come to their house.

2.    Greeting And Giving Souvenirs

Before you enter the homeowner’s house, you have to greet them, it will make the homeowner is respected by you. Japanese people have a habit that often gives small gifts as thanks. So you can give souvenirs to them for thanks because you have been allowed to stay at their house. So you make them happy and they feel valued by what you give.

3.    Footwear

At the last topic, I have told you about “take off footwear”. One of the manners to visit or stay at a japanese family house is taken off footwear. As like Indonesians, Japanese people also take off their shoes or sandals before entering the house. In Japanese house, there is “Genka”. Genka is terrace or small room in front of the entrance of the house. On the terrace or in this small room, they can take off their footwear before entering the house and make sure the shoes or sandals that they use are stacked facing out. But if there is sandals rack, they can put the sandals or shoes on the rack. This is done so that it is easier for them to want to come out later. If they use socks, make sure don't open them because it's more polite than without socks. So you have to know these things because japanese people really like cleanliness.

4.    Try To speak Japanese

They will also accept you if you speak English but you have to try to speak Japanese because it makes them happy with you and they will respect you even though you can't speak Japanese very well.

5.    Tell Them What You Can Eat

Homeowners will feel disappointing to their guests if they give food that is not in accordance with what their guests like or want. So make sure to let the homeowner what meals that you can eat.

6.    Respect For Eating Rules

You have to respect their eating rules, like how to sit when eating, using chopsticks, and ways to hold chopsticks and then say something before eating. Japanese people have quite a lot of procedures for using chopsticks, so if you don't know, you have to try it, if you do it wrong, it won't be scold but they just laugh at you because they feel funny.

            So, those are some of the manners to visit or stay in a japanese family house. Before you come to Japan or go to Japan, you have to know these things, so you can adjust to Japanese families and know how good behavior must be done there.

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The Procedures of Entering The House In Japan

THE PROCEDURES OF ENTERING THE HOUSE IN JAPAN

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Some times ago, I have told you about “The Procedures of Greeting In Japan”, so the parents of japanese people have taught their children from the age of a toddler to respect others that they know like greet them and the family factors are important in teaching their children with polite and kind things to children from childhood. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Procedure of Entering The house In Japan”, it is related to the last topic.

Japanese people are clean and polite people . They have good habit. One of them is the procedure of entering a house. Same like others countries, they will greet before entering the house. And after thet they will do something that in others countries don’t do this. Do you know what is that? I’ll tell you how do they do to enter a house.

Here are some the procedures of entering a house in Japan:

1.    Greeting

The last topic, I have told you about greeting. One of greeting that they do is when we enter a house. Greeting is a way for someone to intentionally communicate awareness of the presence of others who are related to each other. The children in Japan have been taught by their parents to always say hello to people that they know and greet when they enter the house. So when before we enter a house in Japan, we must greet like bend and say something at the same time in front of the house. There are some expressions that we use before entering a house in Japan.  

a.    Tadaima (ただいま), it means “I Go Home” (the word that is said when returning to residence).

b.    Gomen kudasai (ご免ください), it means “Excuse Me” (used  when visiting other people's homes).

If you are a fan of Japanese cartoons (Anime), you will often hear some of the above expressions used in the story before entering a house by some characters like one of them is Nobita characters in the Doraemon cartoon. Although you hear in Bahasa language or other language but you know about how they enter the house. So we can use these expressions before entering a house.

2.    Take off Footwear

One of the procedures of entering a house in Japan is “take off footwear”. As like Indonesians, Japanese people also take off their shoes or sandals before entering the house. In Japanese house, there is “Genka”. Genka is terrace or small room in front of the entrance of the house. On the terrace or in this small room, they can take off their footwear before entering the house and make sure the shoes or sandals that they use are stacked facing out. But if there is sandals rack, they can put the sandals or shoes on the rack. This is done so that it is easier for them to want to come out later. If they use socks, make sure don't open them because it's more polite than without socks. So you have to know these things because for some tourists who come to Japan they often experience culture shock because they are not used to doing these things in their country.

3.    Wearing socks and sandals

Before entering the house of Japanese people must take off their shoes or sandals, after doing this they must wear special socks and sandals used in the house. So using socks and using different sandals when from outside and entering the house, this is done so that the house is clean because all activities are done on tatami and using socks in Japanese people's homes to look more polite than not using socks. Tatami is like a traditional Japanese made mat and usually made from woven straw. But they will change sandals if they enter a bathroom, and usually they will take off their sandals when they enter the bedroom.

            So those are some procedures of entering the house in Japan. Those are some of the things that Japanese families life do when entering a house. You have to know these things if You go to Japan or visit Japanese people’s house because for some tourists who come to Japan they often experience culture shock because they are not used to doing these things in their country.

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The Procedures of Greeting In Japan

THE PROCEDURES OF GREETING IN JAPAN

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Some times ago, I have told you about “Some Ways Japanese People Educate Their Children”. Hopefully, we can apply the methods of Japanese parents to overcome these children can be applied in our family life. Today, I’m going to tell you about “The Procedures of Greeting In Japan”, it is related to the last topic.

Greeting is a way for someone to intentionally communicate awareness of the presence of others who are related to each other. The children in Japan have been taught by their parents to always say hello to people they know and greet when they enter the house, since they were little. It same like Indonesia or other countries. But, there is a procedures of greeting in Japan. Let’s find out the procedure and how to do it.

The procedures of greeting:

1.    Bend Over (お辞儀, Ojigi)

Some time ago, I have told you how the Japanese people educate their children. One of them is respecting others. あいさつ Aisatsu is the culture of the Japanese people when saying excuse me, apologizing, getting acquainted, meeting older people and even receiving calls; they will bend their bodies slightly even though the person calling doesn't see you. Bend over (お辞儀, ojigi) is a must, this tradition has been taught to children since toddlers.

Bending habits are continuously carried out in Japan. It is necessary to know that how to bend men and women is different. Usually a man will put his hands next to his thighs when bent, while women will put their hands on their thighs. Japanese people will be happy if they meet always give greetings, like “Ohayou gozaimasu”, “Konnichiwa” and “Konbanwa”.

There are many types of bending like:

a. The nod of 5 degrees is used by good friends.

b. Bent 15 degrees, Eshaku (会 釈) is usually done to greet people in passing.

c. Bent 30 degrees, Keirei (敬礼) is used to greet customers or thank someone or invite friends to enter your house.

d. Bent 45 degrees, Saikeirei (最 敬礼) is used to indicate the most profound gratitude, respect, official apology, asking for help, and so on.

e.   Bent until the head touches the floor, Zarei (座 礼), ojigi which is done while sitting. Usually used by religious events.

But we can use a bent method with a bend of 30 degrees. If we are newcomers or foreigners, Japanese people will not force us to bend perfectly. They will respect you if you bow to them calmly and respectfully. The way to do this is to bend the deepest then followed by a low bow to the smallest.

2.    Say Something When Bent

When you come to Japan, there must be some Japanese greeting each other by bowing instead of shaking hands even. When they bow, they will say something. Do you know what they say? Okay, here I’ll tell you what they say.

a.    Ohayou Gozaimasu (おはようございます), it means “Good Morning”.

b.    Konnichiwa (こんにちは), it means “Good Afternoon”.

c.    Konbanwa (こんばんは), it means “Good Evening”.

d.    Oyasumi nasai (お休みなさい), it means “Good Night”.

e.    Sayonara (さようなら), it means “Goodbye”.

f.     Mata aimashō (また会いましょう), it means “See You Again”

g.    Hajimemashite (はじめまして), it means “The First Time To Meet you.

h.   Yoroshiku (onegaishimasu) (どうぞ) よろしく ( お願いします), it means “Nice To Meet You”.

i.      Arigato gozaimasu. (どうも) (ありがとうございます), it means “Thank You So Much.

There are still a number of expressions that can be said but these are some commonly used expressions. It is same with other countries but when they say above, they will bend and say it at the same time.

        So, those are some things that can we do if you want to go to Japan. We have to adjust ourselves to where we are so we can be accepted by them. Because the children in Japan who are toddlers they have been taught by their parents how to respect others that they know, like greeting and how they do it has been taught from the age of a toddler. Over and over again, the family factors are important in teaching their children with polite and kind things to children from childhood.

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Some Ways Japanese People Educate Their Children

SOME WAYS JAPANESE PEOPLE EDUCATE THEIR CHILDREN

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. Today, i’m going to tell you about “Some Ways Japanese People Educate Their Children”. Before I tell you about it; we have to know what’s educating? Educating is an effort to give motivation to children so that there is a process of internalizing values ​​in themselves, so a good attitude will be born.

Every country must have a positive culture and habits. Same like Japan, we know that Japanese people are known to be disciplined, strict and work hard. It turns out that they can happen because parents in Japan have implemented it since their children were young. We need to know that the way parents in Japan educate their children by parenting proximal. Proximal is consistent and prolonged body contact between mother and child. So mothers in Japan are more proactive to their children's needs.

Japanese people have a way or method of educating their children. Here are some ways Japanese people educate their children:

1.    Patience

Some parents will always be impatient when looking after their children especially when children do things that parents don't like. But patience is the main thing done by Japanese parents to their children. It happens because parents in Japan will give their children freedom of expression and do the things that they want but remain under parental supervision.

2.    How to Overcome The Angry Children and Tantrums

Tantrum is angry while screaming and crying. The habits of parents in Japan when they scold their children are when they are at home. They will not reprimand or scold their children in the presence of a crowd or outside the house. So when their children are angry and tantrum, the parents will scold and reprimand them inside the house, talk face to face and use a firm tone. Shame is also the thing that motivates children in Japan who are still in school to don’t make a affray outside the house.

3.    Show Affection

The parents in Japan will show affection and their attention to their children. It is done so that their children feel safe and comfortable when with parents but still have restrictions so that children continue to respect their parents.

4.    Praise The Right Way

In Japan, the way of parents praise in the right way is that parents will appreciate and praise; this not because of their intelligence but the efforts of their children and hard work themselve. And usually praising is something that can make satisfaction, enthusiasm even though we cannot make children become high-hearted does not mean that every thing must be praised. For example, when the child can draw or make something by himself/herself so we can praise that.  

5.    Respect to Other People

As we know that Asians have good manners, as well as Japanese people. The parents in Japan will teach their children early to respect older people. So the children will know how to be good in front of older people. It’s same like Indonesian people.

あいさつ Aisatsu is the culture of the Japanese people when saying excuse me, apologizing, getting acquainted, meeting older people and even receiving calls; they will bend their bodies slightly even though the person calling doesn't see you. Bending (お辞儀, ojigi) is a must, this tradition has been taught to children since toddlers.

    So those are “Some Ways Japanese People Educate Their Children”. I hope we can apply the methods of Japanese parents to overcome these children can be applied in our family life.

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Some Mandatory Choices for Breakfast at Home

SOME MANDATORY CHOICES FOR BREAKFAST AT HOME IN JAPAN

Hi guys, welcome back again on my blog. As usual, here I’ll discuss about Japan, especially about family life in Japan. So today, I’m going to tell you about “Some mandatory choices for breakfast at home”. Before I tell you about the title above, I wanna tell you; what are the benefits of breakfast?

Last week, I have told you about breakfast at my last post that breakfast is the first meal of the day when taken in the morning. So, the benefits of breakfast are as an energy source, maintain brain concentration, our body's metabolism is balanced, add nutrition, prevent ulcer disease and many others. People in Japan are famous for hard workers because they need extra energy to do activities, the Japanese people don't forget for breakfast. So families in Japan care about breakfast. And usually, if we are breakfast at home, the meal will prepare by the mother.

Here are some mandatory choices for breakfast at home in Japan:

1.    Rice

Same with Indonesia people, rice is one of choice for breakfast in Japan. It has been more than 2000 years, rice is the main food when breakfast in Japan and usually they add raw eggs on a bowl of rice that is still hot and and added nori. Nori is the name of seaweed in Japan.

2.    Miso Soup

This miso soup is made from miso paste dissolved in chicken broth. This miso soup consists of raw tofu, topped with tofu that has been fried and nori.

3.    Tamagoyaki

Tamagoyaki is the name of omelet in Japan. Tamagoyaki is made with a mixture of mirin and soy sauce which is rolled and cut into pieces and usually tamagoyaki is served with daikon radish. Mirin is a Japanese sweet rice wine that lends mild acidity to a dish. Beside that, tamagoyaki can be made as a bento menu.

4.    Yakizakana

Yakizakana means grilled fish. Yakizakana is also one of the most favored breakfast in Japan. Because they believe that eating fish can make their brains smarter and can work more optimally. Usually the fish that is often grilled is salmon and mackerel.

5.    Natto

Natto is a fermented soybean which has a strong flavor, sticky texture and unique taste. But only a few people like natto because of its unique taste. Natto can also be eaten with hot rice.

6.    Tsukemono

Tsukemono means pickle (acar). Pickles are one of the breakfast menu that can't be left in Japan The pickles are usually made from vegetables or fruits. But the most famous and often eaten at breakfast are pickled plums, pickled radishes, and various vegetable pickles from cucumber, carrot, eggplant and daikon radish.

7.    Ramen, Soba and Udon

Ramen, soba and udon are same but different. Why?. Ramen, soba dan udon are made from noodles but the form of noodles and how to serve when you want to eat is different. And remember, when you eat them don’t forget to use chopsticks, and you have to know how to use chopsticks very well in Japan. Because when you are wrong in using chopsticks, you will be embarrassed. If you want to know about that keep reading on my blog.

a.    Ramen

The texture of ramen is more springy, long and thin. Ramen noodles are always served hot because the pleasure of ramen noodles lies in the spicy sauce that is rich in flavor. This type of noodle is usually made from wheat flour.

b.    Soba (buckwheat)

Soba is made from rye cereal. Soba noodles has a darker color than ramen and udon. The shape is thin like ramen but the way to eat is different. if soba can be consumed when it's cold.

c.    Udon

Udon has the largest size then ramen and soba. Udon noodles is white and thick shape. Same like ramen and soba, udon can eat when it’s hot or cold with clear broth or cloudy broth.

            Ramen noodles, soba and udon are foods for breakfast inspired by Japanese anime cartoons such as Naruto, Doraemon, Kekaishi, and others. Because the characters in it often eat ramen noodles, so these noodles become one of the breakfast menus for Japanese people.

             So every parent in Japan, especially mother; they must serve meals for breakfast on the table for children and their husbands at home before going to school or going to work. Because according to Japanese people breakfast is very important.

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